Divorce

2 years ago

Hi,
I'm a Muslim guy. 3 and a half year back I've got married to this women who mentally tortured me even before my 1st born baby, this women is 3 years elder than me nobody was marrying her, because of my family choice I chose her to get married and I married her. Her father and her family is so rich that am nothing in front of them, no-one was marrying her thus her father sent a proposal to me, and her father was literally like this that marry my daughter I could do anything for you, he even told me he would financially support me as I had the poor financial condition, I even told them am just a driver who hardly earn some amount in which I could fullfil the basic necessities of my entire family, so as am marrying your daughter she should get adjusted in the environment where we all are sustaining, after my first born baby infact during her pregnancy she left my place and gone to her father's home and she told me tumhari auqaat nahi hai isliye Mai jaa rahi Hu. For total of 8 months she wasn't with me, even after pregnancy she didn't come, I begged her and her parents to sent her and my baby to my place, and they were like abhi rehne do, abhi rehne do. And when she came back for few months during that time she used to fight with me daily over her unwanted expenses, and she even quarrel a lots with my mother and after few days of quarreling and not stopping fight led my parents leave the place, my olderly parents started to live their life alone, my parents felt because of them my relationship with her could get disturbed so they parted ways. After my parents left the place she shown me her the side which I never expected from her she used to tell me do this do that and give your whole salary in my hand she even asked me to not give any amount to my parents, and am the only son of my parents. Whenever I used to visit my parents she used to fight with me, infact her own mother sister and family used to stay after my parents left the place. Whenever I bought something for my kids she threw it because that weren't so expensive and branded, She used to tell me k Teri road chaap chindi ki auqaat hai, mere Abba baccho ko aur Mujhe Paal lenge Teri auqaat nhi hai, Many a times she just let me stay out of the room she used to tell me I cannot perform physically so stay away, and from day 1 after the marriage she used to doubt on me, that there's someone in your life someone in your life, this got more after my parents leaving, she raised her hand on me so many times, she used so disgusting words I can't even used it here, every day and every night she fought with me over even stupidest reason of I knocked the door, she fought on why did you knock the door, Tune knock Kar k meri nind kharab Kar Diya ab Mai Teri Raat haram Kar dungi. Many nights I spent outside the door. I would be sort of typing space there's so many things I went through, And I faced all this because of my babies and her blackmails she used to blackmail k Mai khud ko Kuch Kar lungi baccho ko Kar dungi Aur tujhe fasa dungi. I asked her father mother for help over her cruel behaviour with me they both told me k humari beti naadan hai, hum humari beti ko Kuch nhi bolenge. This support from her family made her even stronger to do anything or to say anything, She even told me law is in favour of women's so she could do anything with me. This wasn't it, it was continuing by her the mental tortured was continuing by her day by day it was getting much, one day I had decided to commit suicide because I was got so tired of her sick behaviour, but then because of my olderly parents I saved myself as am the only son of their. And I left her place the flat which was gifted to her by her father, I left it 6 months back and now am living with my parents, since last 6 months she used to say Mai tumhe divorce nahi dungi, she even influenced my parents on the basis of kids, every one asks me to give her a chance, I gave her so many chances to not disturb the relationship but she was like k bacche hai toh mujhe chodh Nahi Sakta hai. She's still the same nothing changed, she made my life so hell that I could kill myself but I don't wanna go to her, because of money she thinks she would get me back as she only wants to have a marital tag of having a husband, because of society and also because of her late marriage and this disturbed marriage could be a reason for other people's so even after the court matter she wants me back in her life not as a husband as a slave as she tolds laws are in favour of women.
2 days back she told me send me legal notice my advocate wants you to send me the notice first then he'll start he's proceedings for her.

Please kindly guide me what to do, and how to get divorce from her.