Separation, divorce, cybercrime, domestic violance

4 years ago

I am a very petrified, nervous and unfortunate wife residing in Ghaziabad with my husband and two daughters (<5 & 10 years). I am living a miserable life for the last 14 years facing never-ending abuses ranging from verbal, emotional, sexual, financial and off late, physical inflicted by my overly controlling, always suspecting and shamelessly manipulative husband. I was facing his abuses and over dominance, scolding in front of all since very first month of the marriage. I was absorbing all his misbehaves. Gradually, his habit became his power. I was mentally harassed regularly. During the pregnancy of my younger daughter and after birth he mentally and sexually harassed and abused me too much. He cursed me and forced me to leave job. However, i did not left job as i was adamant for not being dependant on him. I was regularly abused by him emotionally, sexually and sometime his verbal abuses were extended physically. Though i was working, I was not supposed to spend money by my own. Once he molested my close friend when she came to stay at my home for two days and she had to leave in one day only. After getting her complaint, when i asked about this to my husband he very rudely replied that it will happen because u dont give me frequently. Also before 4-5 years back my maids complained that he tries to touch improperly. I was facing endless insults in front of my daughters and inlaws. I was in a kind of depression and fear for not to raise my voice against him regarding his character and bad mouthing.Then i was emotionally supported by many of office female and male colleagues/seniors and I felt an emotional attachment with one of my colleague. I also went on an office trip with him but its an emotional attachment only nothing more was there. Once when my husband yelled at me saying that "U may go annyywhere, if u cant digest my scoldings. I m like this and will be like this. " Collecting all my courage i at once replied “u may find another domestic slave and leave me if u cant behave well and dont think u are alone in my life. I have someone else also.” He enquired a lot about it and i become afraid on his inquiries and then my husband hacked all my mails and probablly manuplated those and blackmailed me to show this to all my family and said me that if u r going to leave me or complained about his activities in family, i will show these to all. He is not liking to me having contact with my colleagues and friends who is actually helping me to boost my morale to oppose such abusive behaviour, blackmails me continuously by every mean. 1. By giving me threats that he will isolate me from family and my daughters, if i leaves him. He said me he will defame me in this way that no one will help me. 2. By personal information which he got after hacking my email account which itself is a crime as per cyber laws and further manipulated those. 3. He gave me threats of killing me, my friend or anyone if i will take any action against him or leave him. Every time he promises to behave nicely, he just ends up repeating the same abuses and violence after few days. No body including his parents, brothers, etc. can control him. He was constantly threatening to kill me, my kids and my office colleague if I leave him. And finally he showed mails to my family and proved me characterless in front of family. I have a very conservative family. I was isolated by all, even after his down character issues of molestation of my friend and maids and behave like a monster. My elder daughter who saw me beating and abusing by his father is only support, I had. My anxiety before him was increasing and feeling so insecure, i called my parents and had a huge fight for letting me shifted to separate place and I had to leave the house with one of my daughter (elder one -10 year). He did not allow to send the younger one (<5 year). He refused to leave the house for some time when option was given to him that i may live with kids and his parents also, if he goes. So I have to get out of that house. All financial matters are still hanged up. They denied to give me gift golds (Streedhan). He also took my sign on a noterised contract papers in which kids separation and other rubbish financial matter has been stated. Now, I just want to get back my pride and my younger daughter. Recently he did stalking and came near my office without informing me and beaten me in public place at metro station, after separation. He is saying that he has proofs to show me characterless in court. I just want my younger daughter and my pride back. What are legal options I have??