Manipulative Inlaws and Unsupportive Husband
9 months ago
My Mom in law and Sister in law are very dominating and Manipulative people where my husband is a guy who blindly follows their advise .Dad in law also has no voice and supports them.Within 2 months from marriage my inlwas started creating issues between me and husband by putting so many controls over when we should go out ,not to have food from outside.Not to sit together in bedroom and watch movies .Always sit with them in common room.etc.I am a full time IT professional and My mom in law wants me to get up early finish all house chores and also comes to kitchen in between work and do the work as and when needed .My husband doesnt have any voice and he believes after marriage girl should adjust as per his family things.By 6 months I came back home after an emotional abusement incident from my mom in law and sister in law and at the same time i got pregnant too.My husband throughout pregnancy forced me to come back to his house as his parents want me there and they are guilty of their doings.I went back for 3 weeks due to some office matters and even during pregnancy my mom in law created lot of issues with my husband and gave me immense mental pressure in all ways .Even after delivery his mom and sister visited to show their ownership on my baby and whenever they visit they took over the kid as if I am having no role overtheir.My husband forces me to come back to his home.But I told only if we seperately live I will.But now his family is playing all emotional drama and he is supporting them .Everytime he comes to my home he creates and issue and portrays me as a bad person for reacting for the things he says about me and my family .For past 1.5 years I have been atteneding therapy but its of no use as my Husband never supports me and always wanted me ,my family under his familys feet.Also he believes the baby should be given to his parents and sister to be taken care of.
I really dont know how to go ahead with this relationship .
According to your description, I am understanding that you have abusive in-laws who created lots of issues in your marital life. In such circumstances, you may send a legal notice to your husband stating your terms and condition to come back and stay with him. If your husband agrees to your terms and conditions then well and good, otherwise you may file for a divorce and maintenance case against him. you may file a mutual divorce or a contested divorce according to your circumstances and choice.
you can also lodge a complaint against your husband and in-laws at your local police station for all the abuse they have done to you.
Thanks & Regards
You may immediately lodge a police complaint and also Domestic Violence case under the provisions of Domestic Violence Act. If you don’t want to continue the relationship you may file Divorce case.
t may be beneficial for you to seek guidance from a qualified therapist, counselor, or marriage counselor who can provide personalized support and advice based on your specific circumstances.
Communication and Assertiveness: Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship. Express your concerns, feelings, and boundaries to your husband calmly and assertively. Clearly communicate your need for mutual respect, support, and understanding in the relationship.
Couples Therapy: Consider seeking couples therapy or counseling with your husband. A neutral third party can help facilitate communication, improve understanding, and work through the issues in a constructive manner. A therapist can also assist in addressing the dynamics between you, your husband, and your in-laws.
Boundaries and Self-Care: Establish and enforce healthy boundaries to protect your well-being. Focus on self-care, including activities that bring you joy and reduce stress. Take time for yourself to recharge and seek support from friends, family, or a support group.
Legal Advice: In situations where there are significant conflicts and issues that cannot be resolved through therapy or communication alone, you may want to consult with a lawyer who specializes in family law. They can provide guidance on legal options and rights that may be available to you.
Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or support groups who can provide emotional support and guidance. Sharing your experiences with others who have faced similar challenges can help you gain perspective and find support.
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