Wife failed to disclose her loans (around 90 lakhs) before marriage. Now trouble

1 year ago

Hello All,
Before marriage, my wife didnt tell me about the loans she took and their parents also covered it up until marriage. She earns very well Rs: 90,000 . But their family takes around 50% of that salary and other part goes to undisclosed home loans, leaving only Rs:4000 in her account.

Now when I asked about these undisclosed loans, she avoids me by giving these answers,

1. She can contribute only Rs:1000.
2. Only men should support financially.
3. Money is just a piece of paper.
4. She will contribute only if my bank balance is almost zero.
5. She would feel my love only if I support using my money.
6. You are money minded.

After this incident spread among relatives, her family now avoiding everyone and also stopped picking phones. Now she picks up silly fights like "why so mean, you dont feel my love, etc".

All I asked her to contribute together in all areas of marriage life. I already contributing to household, EB, Medical bills but still she says its my responsibility while she gives away 90% of her money to her family.

Its not even 1 yr into marriage and so much is going on. What should I do to make realize and support my family(me and her).