i am tired with my family
1 year ago
me aur mere family me dikkat hai me chahta hu life apne hisab se jiyu mere papa ne mujhe bhut roka hai mene bhut achi job dhundi thi khudse mere papa ne meri job churwai aur kaha ki isse achi lgwaunga but lagwai nhi chote kaam lgwaaye but baat chote bade kaam ki nhi ,educated person yahi chahta hai ki profile achi mile me yahi chahta tha mene graduation bhi apni kamai se ki fir lockdown wagera pr gya lockdown se present time me jobless hu aur mere parenst shaadi krana chahte hai me agree nhi hu to papa ne bola nikal ghar se me nikla to panic attack aaya to family ne emotionally mujhe shaadi ke liye mnna liya but me nhi chahta jis area me hum rehte hai wahi stay kre kyun area acha nhi at least itna to sun le woh but nhi mante .mere papa like ye kaam me krdun ya kaa me nhi karun mtlb chat bhi apni pat bhi apni.recently papa ne bola ghar se nikal dunga mene bola thik hai fir wahi panic attack me krun to kya krun me thak gya koi family support nhi mera naa maa kaa naa bhehen ka .har baar bas yahi hota hai woh kehte hai nikal jab me nikalna chahta hu ghar waalo ko chorke to panic attack aate aur meri mom blame krti marenge to meri wajah se ab meri kya galti me bs chahta hu apni life me apne hisab se jiyu bs jese mene kaha ki me maan gya shaadi ke liye jabki me shaadi nhi krna chahta me bs yahi demand kr rha hu ki life apne hisab se jine do fir woh kehte hai jine to de rhe hai kaha tang krte jina in the sense mujhe ristedaari nhi nibhani koi aata jaata nhi ghar me mere papa ke behaviour se bhut bolte hai kisi ko bhi muh pr bol dete hai aur bs ijjat ijjjat krte rehte hai mana ijjat value hai but itni bhi nhi kisi ko roke.mene kaha me abroad jana chahta hu to kaha ghar se nikal mene kaha me rishtedaar ke nhi jaa rhe mujhe nhi psnd to kaha ghar se nikal chije tor for krna ghar ki,mene kaha shaadi nhi ghar se nikal kyunki me janta hu shaadi woh mere hisab ki ladki se nhi krenge mere dono beheno ki shaadi hui ladke se bs shaadi waale din mili unki psnd ka bhi nhi tha unki bhi nhi sunni ab woh chup chaap ji rhi hai but me aisa nhi.me lirbrate hu ki jo chahu krnu mere papa orthodox hai mujhe kisi chij me aage nhi barne diya mere papa meri banti nhi mene kaha tak keh diya me tumhare saath re lunga but tumahre niyam se nhi rhunga me liberate hu mujhe niyam me ghuttan milti hai naa mere ab tak dost bnne mere papa ne mujhe study aur gaming ghar me engage kra
jese mene btaya ki mujhe job mil khud ke dum pr achi but mere papa ne chudwaadi ye kehkar isse achi lagwa dunga aise krte krte meri age bhi bar gyi me 30 saal ka hu ab mujhe koi job nhi deta age ki wajah se.aur me papa se pareshaan hu unke rule se hamesha taane dete hai
chalo thik hai me kuch naa krun naam badnaam krun maa baap ka banta hai sunana but mene aaj tak aisa kuch nhi kiya bs manga to yahi ki jina apne tarike se chahta hu bs ye.naa mujhe paiso ka lalach hai naa property ka mene itna keh diya mujhe ghar se nikal do me chala jaunga even sab kuch betiyo ke naam kr dena me kabhi nhi aaunga kyunki me thak gya hu roj roj ka drame se.me sports me bnna chahta tha nhi kiya support aur kehte the mere dost ka beta sports me hai .mene socha papa ke saath chat pr bethkr time spend krun chaaye lekar gya to ye sunne ko mile dekh woh ladka hai tu us jesa ban.
mene aaj tak papa se demand nhi ki ye do woh do jab ki yahi bawaal hota hai yahi to chaha ki mujhe apne tarike se jina hai tumhare nhi woh maante nhi kehte hai ki mere se kuch galat krwa doge ye bolte hai
even mujhe ye bola ki kahi naukri bhi nhi milegi aisa krdunga tere saath jab me kehte me aise jina chahta hu
mere koi support nhi hai bilkul bhi me thak gya mujhe secuirty chaiye
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chaahe me sadak pr reh lun me khush rhunga chaahe itte utha lunga me thak gya family se degree ka bhi fayeda nhi
ek taraf kehte hai ki apne psnd ki ladki bta shaadi kra denge to mera jawab ki aaj tak ghar me ked krke rakhha ladki kaha se laun
aur abroad jana hai wahi settle hona hai bola to ghar se nikal wahi sab repeat me thak gya bhut.
agar mere papa ko kuch hua to blame mere par ki mari wajah se marre
aur mummy bhi keh rhi hai ki roj roj m bhi thak gyi baap bete ki baato se jaldi mar naa jaun to choti behen ne bola kuch hua naa to tereko sab milke maarenge
me krun to kya krun
me bs itna chahta hu ki life apne hisab se jiyun meri koi demand bhi nhi hai jyada kuch bs jina apne tarike se chahta hu
meri mummy ne kai baar papa ko samjhaya is baare me jab woh nhi chahta kuch kyun tang krta hai nikal de isko
to papa kehte nhi usko nikalunga tujhe bhi teri beti ko bhi aur randiyo ko rakhunga bs yahi drama hota hai
me thak gya hu roj roj ki baato se kabhi kabhi lagta hai ki aslyum chala jaun yaa kuch krlun
meri 10th 2012 me hui
meri 12th 2017 me hui
meri gradution jo mene khudki kamai se ki woh 2021 me fir lockdown lg gya mera 1 saal barbaad opportunity nhi dhund papa lockdown khula to job nhi mile socha course krlu insititue band sab
ek baar mene tang aakar ghar waalo se police me call kri jab police walo ne pucha hum kyamadad kr skte hai mene bola ki mere parents ne pareshan kr diya to unhone phone kaat diya
us din bhi papa ko panic aa gya
me aisa nhi hu me nhi chahta hurt krna lekin me seh bhi nhi sakta warna mujhe kuch ho sakta hai me nhi kar sakta control mentally
mere papa se agar paise maango to kehte ki nahi ai phone ke paise dete hai aur khaane ko
usme bhi bolte hai ki bethe bithaaye mil rha hai
aaj tak delhi se bahar ghumaaya nhi bs jamai ke kehne pr shimla gya kyunki jamai ne bola
ye dikhane ke liye mera naam hoga
mere papa is like ijjat apne naam ke liye jitna bhi paisa ho woh de denge koi khilaaf ho to ghar se nikal denge is like aur me iske ulta hu me chahta hu independent bnu paisa kamau career pr dhyaan dun aur shaadi apni pasand aur aau jauan waha jaha me chahta hu yahi mere papa nhi chahte mujhse isi chijo ke khilaf hai aur kitna likhu
i am tired specially with my dad duniya ke liye paisa hai baatne ke liye mummy maa behen ke liye nhi aur me to mangta nhi jabardasti dete hai mujhe woh bhi mobile recharge krta me kya hi kahu bs yahi chahta hu ki mujhe safety chaiye ki koi blame krde ki meri wajah se hua
I am so sorry to hear this. It is extremely difficult and sad to put up with family difficulties. However, you need to help yourself here and there is little that can be done legally, as it would require funds to fight case even under harassment, which assuming you're still a student will be difficult for you. Also, you are still financially dependent on your parents.