The Couple Salary Issue

5 years ago

I recently married ( 5months). I am an IT Engineer and my wife working in a Bank. .I did not took any Dowry,Gold ,Silver, Any Assets . We both quarrelled on home expenses using salary. Before marriage , i informed to her father \\\"I need support. So that only i am willing to marry your daughter( working woman)\\\". My father-in- law remained silent till marriage. My marriage completed successfully. In the 1st month of my marriage , i only beared fully home expenditure. From 2nd month onwards,i asked my wife to share amount on our home expenses( Rent, Electricity, Grocessories, Clothes, Travelling..etc) She also shared her amount in the monthly expenditure. At the end of 5th month, I asked her to give remaining salary after payment of her Tax related policies( LIC) and take some amount for your daily expenses. She accepted to give. The next day, she met her parents and returned my home. The next day , i asked her salary amount as discussed earlier. She refused to share her salary , because of loosing her freedom. She told that, each time i have to beg you for single rupee.( i.e she is feeling guilty, to ask her husband for need in money.). After 2 weeks, i asked her Payslip. She shown to me. I asked her to explain the payslip. She told that , i am having loans before marriage. These loans will continue till retirement. Then again i asked her transfer the rest of the amount after loan payments. At that time, we both quarelled.Her answer is same\\\" I do not give money. i will loose my freedom. Each time , i have to beg you for single rupee\\\".

The next day, she informed to her father. Her father told her, return to their home. After 2 days, i rang her mobile and asked her to return my home. Till now she did not came y home. Till now 38 days completed.

My Wife is only employee in my father-in-law house. Her father do not do any work . All her parents are dependent on her. Before marriage, she gave her salary to thier parents. After marriage, their life became difficulty. Limited money is receiving from her. My wife having a younger sister. She borrow money from her and never return full amount. But provide gifts like Gold Ring, bags for her future needs. My Mother- in - law also dependent on her salary.

Due to for their family needs ( Father-in-law, Mother-in-law and her sister),they are keeping my wife in their house for money purpose and completing their needs. They are not trying to make together of her daughter and me.
My wife also not returning , even invited her throough phone. Till now, 38 days completed. Still she did not came.

My own expectations :

I think her parents demand is : Keeping her full salary with her and can utilise her amount till their death. Making full financial burden on me till my death. Gaining my assets after my death.

They are giving training on me negatively. Making her to fear through virtual thoughts. Spoiling her heart. Not making a good relation with me.


I am getting confused . The time is wasting.

Please give any suggestions.

Awaiitng for your reply.