Divorce, maintenance and child custody

2 years ago

I am married for 11 years, have a 10 years old son.

I need one help/advise.

My In-laws family is extremely broken in terms of relations and thus experienced in the legal matters .. like MIL, SIL, BIL all either divorced, remarried multiple times or going through divorce and have put false legal cases against spouses ..

My husband is no different when it comes to behavior .. name calling, physically abused and used filthy language(in private) inspite of being a very Sr. Director in an US and Canada based IT company (the only educated and earning member in his family). Then he would claim that he will trap me and there in no proof against him. Since the day of birth of our son, he refused to sleep in our room on his mother’s advice. And it’s been 10 years now.
He never visited my parents and didn’t want me to keep any relations with them, but I refused. So he kept harassing me for that.

First he kicked me out by abusing a lot and then later he sent threat messages that I should divorce him and then messages like that he want me to come back. And i stopped all communication in between and now he said he want me to come back. Or else I am earning and I have been saving money and living off his money and I was eyeing on his properties etc

He threatened me to use proofs like grocery bills etc and vacations etc that I have been treated very good and beyond my deserving Aukaat.

I don’t talk to him as I am not interested because of threats and intimidation. I lose my peace of mind to the extreme. He will just keep blaming.

I haven’t filed any case till now as I am very confused and struggling to switch a job near my area and busy with kid and his studies and exams.

If I go back to his city where I have a job and kid has school , I don’t want to stay with him as earlier as he will repeat patterns and I will again go into depression.

I want restraining orders and want to claim compensation for all the abuse I have gone through. Also do I need to take his permissions for getting a TC from child’s school or do I need his permission to get child’s admission done in another school ? This way child’s future will be disturbed as he has narcissist behaviours and he wants control.

Yes I was conservative in spending and was saving because i was always threatened that I will be thrown out of the house.

I have been told by few advocates that since I am earning or have capability of earning, I am
Not entitled to anything and very less amount for my son’s expenses.

But if I was living in a flat and now I have to start my life from fresh, and do a full time job and take care of kid it will definitely be very straining as with age health issues have started to crop in.

Please advice.

Thanks in advance.