Dealing with toxic in-laws

1 year ago

Hi, I have been married for 2 years now and lived together for 8 months hardly. My husband told me about 15L loan before marriage and I did not have any problem as he was earning around 1L per month. After marriage he increased the loan to 35L as the entire money for marriage was a borrowed one. His brother who was married with a child is sitting idly at home so my husband borrowed money to support him with a business. I started noticing that my husband would be without a penny by 5th of every month and I have to manage our our expenses. I asked my husband to save some money as we are moving to a different city for work. But I lost my cool when my FIL made him buy a 2 wheeler with that money for no reason by selling other bike he had. I told my husband to make his father understand but he never wanted to talk back. I told him to sort this or I will move out to discuss with my parents. Then I saw their real face. My FIL was abusing me with bad language and the entire family was watching it like an achievement. He even threatened to commit suicide if my husband listened to me. I moved out and they came back to talk where my husband was assassinating my character and asked me to quit job telling that I question them because I work. If I don't then I have be like a dog waiting for its food from owner. Anyways after lot of discussion I gave another chance. But they never regretted. Me and husband moved to different city and I was not aware his father was still controlling our life over calls. My husband goes to gym and groceries where he talks to his father who then advices him to treat me as he wants. No physical contact because my husband was not interested as per her father's advice. I should not talk to anyone or go out. He controls my tone and my body movements. Tells constantly that kitchen is not his place. I was quiet but one fine day he asked me for my salary. I said no and he was mentally harassing me. His father did it over call so I asked me to take me to my mom's place. He left me there. We has discussion once but his father was verbally abusive again. He even talks about our private life in front of a crowd. But they want me to quit my job or give them my salary so that my husband will have a child with me and treat me with respect. I called and told my husband that it's not cool and I am not okay with the decision. It's been almost 1 year. They threatened me in between to sign a paper as confirmation for their son to remarry. I asked then to approach me legally. No response after that. I am confused as what to do. He takes care of his brothers family completely and wants to own his nephew's education expenses but I have to pay him or be his slave to live with him. My husband's father is the biggest player here. He makes sure we don't connect back so that he can enjoy all the benefits if his son solely. Confused what to do