Regarding Divorce - she is expecting more from me
1 year ago
Last November I got married it's arranged. I'm little calm type. But she is expecting more from me. For her I have tried to change myself so much.. First I thought because of my silent behavior only she is suffering, so I'm trying to get close to her but she is not allowing me to get close to her mentally and physically also, at some point time I'm exhausted with her behavior I lost hope and good opinion on her. She is dragging small issue also for days and weeks, and also not ready to listen what I'm saying, I'm frankly saying some of my mistakes are there but those are not intentionally I'm doing, I'm less talkative so she is always shouting with her misunderstandings, finally one day she asked permission to go home with this mind, I stopped her so much, but she told like I need some space and decided to go. After that my me, my parents and relatives went to her home to ask to come back but she is replied with very negligence, her sister, mother and relatives told her to go but she threatened them like if I go there i will go for you but i will do something after go there. But her father supporting her from the starting. We find thought that she is in some depression or something so she is doing like that because what she fighting for is not natural and she is saying silly reasons and dragging for weeks. Finally one day she asked me for separation that that point of time in mind also same thing running so immediately I said okay. As me and my parents are not that much talkative from that time she is demanding me to come to her place and after surrounding all her things she is asking me take my things. As we married in community temple we still not registered our marriage, so she is asking like we can solve this without proceeding legally within our community like that. But she only demanding everything because I'm little afraid that if we go for divorce it is all favour to women only so i have to struggle. is there any chance to talk strict against her in this matter? For marriage also we spend lot of expenses but they didn't spend anything from their side only 25 people came to marriage and they didn't spent anything in marriage formalities for me Or for occasion they only gave the amount 25k for food but it is not even 10% of our expenses and we didn't take Or expect any dowry from them they put one chain for girl it is 40grams after marriage she didn't bring that jewelry to our home at all. We gave 32gram jewelry for her now it is with her only.. By showing our jewelry with them only they are talking like blackmailing, they are asking me to come to their place with divorce like that.. I'm hoping I will get full clarity in this please help me? thanks in advance
If you are looking for divorce then you have to reach out the court and file a case for the same. There is no alternative method to separate and dissolve the marriage. Community cannot dissolve the marriage through any agreement only the court can do so.
If you are hurry in getting divorce then you have to give more and more alimony. Just prolong the settlement matter and your wife may be frustrated and may agree for whatever amount you may give towards alimony.
As you both are interested in separating them I’d suggest you to go to the court and file for mutual divorce.